Resumiendo:

archivo default_update.xml en la carpeta otros del telefono
archivos del menu en la carpeta otros del telefono

reinicio y listo

No me funciona

este es el texto del xml

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<customization>
<file-operations>
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon1_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon1_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon1_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon1_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon2_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon2_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon2_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon2_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon3_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon3_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon3_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon3_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon4_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon4_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon4_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon4_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon5_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon5_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon5_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon5_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon6_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon6_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon6_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon6_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon7_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon7_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon7_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon7_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon8_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon8_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon8_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon8_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon9_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon9_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon9_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon9_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon10_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon10_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon10_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon10_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon11_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon11_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon11_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon11_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon12_selected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon12_selected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/icon12_unselected.png" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/icon12_unselected.png" />
<file-op parse-mask="fa" op="copy" source="usb/other/menu.ml" dest="tpa/preset/system/menu/menu.ml" />
</file-operations>
</customization>